Aug 6th, 2013
Lately it seems like every time I turn around I hear from a friend, student or colleague having at tough time in a personal relationship. The timing is interesting as I go into my eleventh year with my partner, and am soon to be married. As I listen to the tales and get asked for advice, I can only help to reflect on my own relationship, and yoga.
In every relationship there are three parts - the ME, the YOU, and the US. Each of these three legs needs to be healthy and strong for the entire unit to be healthy and strong, for the relationship to be whole.
Imagine a triangle. If the ME is down or depressed, the US will suffer. If the US is in a rough patch the ME and YOU will each be out of our own natural synch, given our tie to the US. If the YOU is wavering, the whole triangle will teeter with it.
Interestingly, this is not a lesson in self help, but of yoga. In the ancient books of Tibetan yoga philosophy we study at I.AM.YOU., they use logic to physically show us how important the balance of a relationship triangle (an I.AM.YOU. phrase for an ancient funky term) is. In the inner, intangible philosophy of yoga there needs to be a balanced triangle between strength, mobility and confidence. In the physical, tangible I.AM.YOU. practice of yoga on the mat there needs to be a triangle of breathe, poses, and dedication. When each of these sets of three are strong and healthy, you are radiant, successful, healthy, and rockin&rsquo it.
In these triangles that dictate the foundation of yoga, and relationships, one leg cannot take all the weight without the whole unit toppling over. Instead all three legs need to be equally strong, supported, and supportive to themselves, and each other.
If you are going through a rough time, try doing some yoga, and focusing on breathe, poses, and dedication while you practice on the mat. Take that to the sidewalks and ponder a balance of strength, mobility, and confidence. And then, if you so dare, examine that relationship and ask yourself if the me, you and us are really as balanced as they should be, as strong as they can be. And apply your yoga lessons to make it better, and better, and better&hellip.